Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Time

To quote a good friend of mine: in life there are only 2 things that matter, people and time. This has great meaning for me. I will spare you the gory details. Let's just say we consider ourselves blessed.

It's our last day. The past few have been ones where I think we have grown considerably as a family. We are learning what is important. Keeping an open mind is key.

Vos seems to feel very comfortable around us. He doesn't listen to a thing and only does the opposite of what one says. The challenge for us is not only to understand the workings of a 3.5 year old but also the workings of a 1, 2, and 3 year old in some areas. Couple that with the challenges of the past he has faced till now and you can imagine he feels lost, confused, angry, misunderstood, and on and on at times. The next little while (maybe a few months) will be important ones. They say that having a consistant schedule without many distractions to start will be important to help Vos feel comfortable, secure, and behave properly. This may mean little, if any, visits to and from friends. Because of the obvious, this will be hard. The other important thing I've read is not to spoil Vos with gifts. We may need to hide any from him ;-).

We are on our way to meet Lena for our last ukrainian meal. A ukrainian buffet. From there, we are meeting at the adoption center to inquire about Vos's brother.

The apt owner was very understanding and hospitable when we discussed rent last night. She gave us a nice discount. She has been living in the apt turned museum next to her apt. It was donated by the wife of a famous ukrainian piano composer who died when he was 42 after being imprisoned by the kgb during wwI. It isn't as much a museum as it is an unkempt dusty shell with photos and a piano.

Wish us luck travelling tommorow. We have decided to press our luck and not give vos anything for the plane ride as far as a relaxer. To get him partially adjusted, there will not be a nap today and he is going down at 6.

Bye bye sweet mother ukraine. We will miss you in ways you won't understand. (I won't - cindy)

Thanks to everyone for following along and making this an entertaining outlet.

Zenon, Cindy, and Vosya

11 comments:

Babi/Dodo said...

Your chapter is coming to a close, and new beginnings are looming on the horizon. We have truly enjoyed your blogs, and this one is very insightful. We wish you a safe and uneventful journey home. God Bless, Love, Mom and Dad

Anonymous said...

Thank you guys so much for letting us share in the adventure. Its been awesome! We wish you a great trip home, and hope Vos adjusts easily. We will be here for you once everything gets settled. We are so happy for you!! Lots of love, Alissa and Cliff

Brian & Amy said...

Zen & Cindy

Amy and I wish you all the best on your travels home...and hope that Vosya sleeps the whole way.
We are so happy for you

Wilkie

Marla said...

It has been wonderful to read all about your wonderful experiences ( both the good and the not so good). Thanks for taking the time to make us laugh and give us a little taste of the Ukraine. We will be ready whenever you guys are for Vos to make his Carmel Valley debut. In the meantime, Drew will be learning new bad habits to teach his new buddy! ;-) We love you all. Marla, Chris and Drew

Joanne said...

A long experience has quickly ended. You have come through this as true warriors, and this battle has been won with grace and humour. We wish you only the best on your travels home, your homecoming and the next few months of adjustment to a completely different life. Bless you all, and may the rest of your journey be an easy one. Love You All, your Aunt Joanne and Uncle Tony.

Anonymous said...

Please know that someone you don't even know in South Carolina is praying for smooth travels and a smooth adjustment for Vos. I happened upon your blog as I was researching Ukrainian adoption as an option for our family, and your story has touched me deeply. Your son is a beautiful child and is so very lucky to have you both.

Greg said...

Zenon...Cindy...

I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences. What a wonderful idea it was to start a journal. I really appreciate having had the opportunity to get such an intimate glimpse into the lives of two (now three) of my favorite people. Thanks so much.

I really miss you both. I understand that you will be very busy acclimating over the next few weeks... but when you're all settled in it would be great to see you and your son.

Cheers...and welcome home!

The Walkers said...

Cindy:
We had the priviledge of meeting at the US Embassy while adopting our boys. I just came across your blog. We are praying for your trip home and adjustment for Vos. Let us know if you need an ear on adjustment! Zhenya is doing well, although our lives are filled with appointments now! We at least find the US officials helpful!
Jer and Deb

Anonymous said...

What a great adventure--and it is just the beginning! Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us. Have a safe journey. Let us know if there is anything we can do for you. We look forward to seeing you when you feel ready. We send our love and best wishes.
Rob and Carolyn

Randy said...

Hi Cindy, Zen and Vos, All the Lefebvre's have been enjoying these last six weeks reading about your life changing adventure. We are hoping you will share with us your adventure home. Love from all of us, Randy and Lise L.

Anonymous said...

You are home now, its Saturday eve in So. CA., Roger and I have enjoyed your Blog so much and send you a huge welcome home group hug! God bless you with love, peace,a protected time of nesting and lots of sweet sleep in the next few days and weeks!

Yours,
Linda and Roger Hall